Friday student dating nivala June For the past week I've been frozen on the final step studeny creating an online dating profile — not least because I can't think of a suitably private yet mature username. Before writing about this for the Guardian it was a decision I'd kept completely confidential and I'm still not sure that I'll follow it through. It wasn't something I'd ever even considered until my best friend suggested it. Two of her friends at university highly recommended online dating — and it turns out a few of my friends had quietly been doing it, though it's still not something the majority of my friends are prepared to consider.
There are several student dating websites: Date at Uni, Dating for Students and the terribly named FreshMeet that boast tens of thousands of student members. Despite being aware of these sites, and despite having representatives from the speed-dating app Ember promoting on our campus, actually signing up is not something we have ever seriously considered. There is a real stigma attached to online dating amongst students.
When conducting research for this article someone told me: Callously worded perhaps but it reflects a prevailing view about online dating amongst students. I'm at a university with a 25, strong student body; at the start of freshers week, amongst this multitude, online dating seemed like a very adult, and remote, possibility.
After all, most of us are just one year to a few years above the legal age for the majority of dating daging, and the general belief is that you'll find someone at university. Given the sheer number of like-minded, similar people on campus it's natural to assume that you're going to meet someone. Going online feels a little bit like admitting failure. Online dating also feels very datiny, very practical.
It makes infinite sense when you're working full-time, but as a student I finne lokale cougar kempele really claim to be too busy to meet people "the old fashioned way". And, of course, the latter method is always preferred over online dating. Chance encounters in real life signify fate, romance and prove your own overwhelming allure. Online dating is seen as the desperate last resort — throwing your hat into a ring that's surely full of Internet creeps.
I also have a personal issue with online dating. It has always struck me as strangely similar to online shopping, except the items are people. It's not a student dating nivala necessarily, it makes sense to select sutdent who matches your preferences and it's certainly a lot easier to find that from a large, online pool with exact information on personality and background. But that doesn't negate nkvala strangeness for me of scrolling through people's pages then casting them aside if something on their profile doesn't quite match.
Dqting, would it really matter if someone's film preferences didn't match yours? Yet online, that could be student dating nivala tipping point between two similar candidates. If I'm honest, I'm not sure that I'm ready to let myself be judged student dating nivala such a merciless way — I have terrible taste in films. I'm not subscribing to the view that online dating is bad however. It's completely asinine to sneer at online dating because it's not as spontaneously romantic as meeting someone chance.
Nor is there any gratification in remaining alone and not signing up because it's "embarrassing". Online dating is just the latest stage in the evolving process of relationships. And, unsurprisingly, it's really successful. If we're old enough to online date, we're old enough to realise that chance encounters, even at university, don't happen everyone.
One of my friends put it best when he said: If there's no spark, you start looking again. It's just another way of making the world smaller. I still don't know if I'll come up with a username and complete my profile. The last daitng left is plucking up the confidence to add myself to the many faces student dating nivala there. Perhaps somewhat hypocritically, I would now advocate my friends creating profiles, whereas before I would have viewed the whole process as a joke.
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